Whenever there is an open day in the school, there is a lot of anxiety running among the students to know as how well they have fared in the exams. The stress among the parents is even more than that of the students. So there is always a long queue of parents waiting for me at this point of time.
After seeing 6 parents for their child having academic issues, suprisingly now a parent of a fourth standard student came stating that my child does not have any academic issues but he does not speak in the class. Even if someone hits him he does not say anything. He is scared of the teacher and when someone speaks loudly he starts crying.
The question I asked the mother were:-
· What are the strengths of the child? To which the mother says nothing
· Are you sending the child in some activities? Mother said yes
· Does someone shouts at him at home? Mother said No
· Do you all praise the child? Mother said yes
At this time I could relate that being quite in the class is due to lack of confidence. But what exactly was the reason still was not clear from the above questions.
The mother added that his speech was not clear and he stammered a bit. BINGO now I know. I called the child and tried speaking to him. He was very soft and I would barely hear what he was saying. At this point I just told the child to stand straight and put his shoulders firm at the back. I asked him to recite a poem loudly and clearly. He said the whole poem without stammering.
What was this quick transformation? Most of us face lack of confidence at some point of time. I will share few quick fixes so that we can be in the state of confidence 24/7.
1) PHYSIOLOGY CHANGE
The way your physiology is that is how you will get thoughts and that is how your emotions will be created. The mind and body are connected. If you see the physiology of Amitabh Bachhan or a military man their physiology is strong. Also if you remember I corrected the physiology of the boy first.
· As strong physiology = strong mind = great emotions = FULL OF CONFIDENCE
2) FOCUS
Focus on positives rather than negative that means focus on solutions instead of problems. For e.g. when the baby does not eat we tend to force the child. Still if does not eat then we tend to shift the focus by saying look at the bird and then feed him.
Shift your FOCUS on only RESULT
For e.g. need to shift the focus from nervousness before a speech to the best results after the speech.
· Shift your FOCUS on SOLUTIONS = YOU WILL FEEL CONFIDENT
3) CHANGE CORE BELIEFS
If you THINK I don’t have the background or confidence to do a task - Brain gets two possibilities and gets confused.
Belief – I will not succeed anyway.
Confidence -LOW
THINK- I will do it for sure – Brain knows what to do
Belief – I will succeed
Confidence -HIGH
POSITIVE BELIEF = SUPERB CONFIDENCE
4) INCREASE THE SPEED
Confidence increase by the way you speak, by the way you move, by the way your gestures are and by the way your tone of voice is.
- Increase you walking speed by 20%
- Increase your tone of talking (volume) by 20%
- Increase your speed of talking by 20%
*(Not for people who are really fast)
· GOOD MOTION = GREAT CONFIDENCE
5) SUCCESS JOURNAL
Keep a success journal to show yourself of all the dark incidence you have gone through and you succeeded those tough times beautifully. You have feel proud about the things you have done.
It will remind you that in tough situations you turned it off. This will help you to face any situations with full confidence.
· You as SUCCESSFUL COMPETANT PERSON = FEELING AWESOME AND CONFIDENT
6) START CONTRIBUTION
When you help people and contribute to something you feel more confident.
· CONTRIBUTION TO SOCIETY = CONTRIBUTES TO YOUR CONFIDENCE
7) STOP ANALYZING YOURSELF
Even a single doubt affects the confidence of the person. We tend to focus a lot on our self by analyzing our self and asking questions like why was I not able to it?
· STOP ANALYZING SELF = INCREASED CONFIDENCE
#Progressive Youth program # Rinkal Karia # Directional Coach and Guide for Youth# Love to help people # Feeling Awesome
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